I’ve been meaning to write this post for a while now. The thing with IVF is that it makes you just a little bit paranoid. You’re investing so much time, money and emotion into it that you really don’t want to do anything wrong. So you need to have some activities to stop the stress monsters from taking over. If you’re anything like me as soon as you get five minutes you’ll be googling like a crazy person. At one point I was even banned from googling by my acupuncture therapist but that will have to be a story for another day!
As I mentioned in my previous post I didn’t feel comfortable with exercising during IVF so I had to think about other things to do to keep my mind on board (and out of IVF chat rooms!) Don’t get me wrong, chat rooms and talking with like minded people who are in the same boat as you can be really therapeutic and helpful. I have met and chatted to many lovely ladies. But once IVF has started I always think that keeping your mind as positive as possible is the only way to get through. Even the slightest whiff of negativity can send your mind into overdrive particularly when you have all of those drugs swishing around inside you. Rational thinking really does go out the window – well it did for me anyway.
So one of the things that always kept me occupied is reading. I have always been a fan of books and when you need to keep calm there is nothing like losing yourself in a good book. I like cheerful happy books with a bit of intrigue and romance thrown in there too. I must admit I like a good read so anything which isn’t well written doesn’t normally last long with me. I once read that the biggest waste of time is persevering with a book which you don’t like. I live by that motto now so if I don’t like it, I just get rid! Here are three to get you started:
I Capture the Castle – Dodie Smith
A poignant, warm novel about a family living in a crumbling castle during the 1930’s. It’s a tale of love, heartbreak and basically growing up and is written in the voice of young Cassandra who is the heroine of the story. I’m actually still reading this book at the moment and I absolutely love it. I think everyone of us will see something of our young selves in Cassandra.
Me Before You – Jojo Moyes
If you haven’t read this book yet you really should. I steered clear of it for a long time as my sister is in a wheelchair and I worried that it would all be a bit too close to home. But it really is a beautiful book about a young girl who goes to work as a carer for a man who had an accident and is in a wheelchair. For it’s sad parts it really is uplifting and encourages you to grab life and get on with it. I read this shortly after my first failed IVF cycle and it made me realise that I needed to fight on. There is no time to wallow in sadness.
If God was a Rabbit – Sarah Winman
This is another great read. It covers so many subjects in one book and is another poignant and engaging story. It’s unlike anything I’ve ever read before and kept me up reading when I should have turned out the light. It is essentially a story about Elly and Joe, a bother and sister growing up in Cornwall. I don’t want to say too much as I don’t want to spoil the story but I think you will enjoy it.
Did you find reading helped during your IVF cycle? Do you have any good book recommendations? We could get a bit of a reading group going on here perhaps. x